A Secret Love

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But....so much is missing from their story. so much repetition and concentrating on their older years is fine however with all the photos that appear and letters - their story except for highlights isn't really told. it left me with a big awwwwww isn't this wonderful but honestly? the meat and potatoes were left out. I don't want to critique the film further as it would contain spoilers - so I have to be very careful in what I write - the bottom line is - too much is missing. the trailer is misleading in many ways. and yet of course it touches the heart it's a lovely love story - but you could have done so much more with that. I wonder what is on the editing floor as they say.

I think this documentary was well done. I was sceptical in the first twenty minutes or so, but it soon dragged me in. The love that Terry and Pat had for each other is a testament to the fact that being gay or straight is not a choice. Love is Love! This documentary also does a lot to talk about aging and family and caring for aging couples. It's definitely heartbreaking to watch at times, but so important to share. I think it's sad though to know that now Pat is alone in Canada, where she didn't want to be, with a family that admitted they only had a relationship with Pat because of their love for Terry. This documentary is proof that even the happiest of love stories doesn't always have a happy ending.

My partner and I have been together almost 40 years, so you would think I would closely identify with the gay couple. But I am also the son of elderly difficult parents, so my heart went out to the niece Diana in the story. Just like my parents, Pat and Terry are stubborn and unrealistic about their situation as they age with declining health. They don't appreciate the sacrifice of their niece traveling back-and-forth from Canada to Chicago. I cheered when Diana finally had her meltdown. My advice based on years of experience: don't wait until a crisis to make plans as you age. Be realistic about your needs for help and be grateful to those who provide it.

This love story is one of the most pure and real, probably ever made, nothing in it is made-up or superficial. It is just pure and simple love and family and more love. Imagine being with the person you love for over sixty years and have to call one another cousin instead of wife or partner. Imagine being lucky enough to have someone to love for that long. This movie is touching and beautiful and very very human.

Love this story. Their love story is beautiful! I was hoping it would be more about when they met, their courtship and the earlier years. Still heartwarming!!

This movie was well done . It was a great story of love and loss and growth and family . It was also very very focused on the challenges of growing old and family dynamics, financial strain and the fear of letting go of the life you have known and loved . This is all great and interesting however ... I found myself really wanting to know and hear way way more about Terris time in the baseball league , about what it was like being gay in the 50s and 60s Chicago , how this was navigated , more stories from when they were young , more about the journey . It was good . Love is love . It's great they told their families . It's great they lived a good life and are making a documentary together at 90. But what makes this so unique along with being together for 70 years , is the fact they were pioneers in many respects and THIS is what could have made this great . But it came up short . Watch it but go in expecting more a documentary about old age and end of life care rather than the life they lived together.